Christians and Sex: Breaking The Silence

The sex industry drove the commercial and entertainment potential of the Internet in the mid-1990s and is still the #1 ultra mega multibillion-dollar leading industry online. Adult businesses and bookstores, Internet websites, cable and network television, pornography, music videos, phone sex lines, PG-13 and R-rated movies and increasingly sexually explicit advertising are problematic for many struggling with sexual temptation, fidelity and purity. To put it bluntly, someone accurately stated we are now living in the “Age of Lust and Masturbation”.

Internet pornography and virtual sex technologies have dramatically compounded the problem. What was once (reasonably) hidden and difficult to get when I was a teenager (late 1980s – early 1990s) is now readily available to anyone: at home, in the office, at school, in the car, on the phone, through wireless devices, etc. Even judicial activism and social policy legislation to protect (and promote) sexual freedoms and rights are following suite. To ignore these issues in families and in the Lord’s church is foolish, deadly and damnable.

Moral relativism and situational ethics (“I’m OK, your OK”, “whatever feels right”, etc.) characterize our modern society. Those who champion “tolerance” and “nonjudgmental” values embrace and celebrate everything except traditional morality and behavior. Tragically, far too many Christians have made accommodations for societal influences, have passively embraced a more secularist (worldly) view of life and have failed to communicate (and demonstrate) Christian ideals sufficiently…

  • God has revealed the truth and Christians have access to the truth. Yet too many of us can’t handle the truth of God’s Word about this subject nor the everyday reality so many people find themselves in! For far too long we have let fear and shame ruin our homes, families and churches.
  • We can no longer complain about (or ignore) the current state of affairs. When will God’s people rise above immaturity, mediocrity, tradition, apathy and complacency?
  • Why is it we rush to accuse, judge, condemn and shun those who are entrapped and struggling with sin and temptation and then sit in the pew wondering why have so little positive influence on others and respect from others?
  • So many are suffering needlessly! Too many non-Christians and Christians are being broken, are dying and are dead because of sexual sin!
  • It is past time to get real, get serious, be honest and be on fire for Christ! When we come to grip with our own experiences with bondage and sin, and when we are willing to share our experiences with others, we will see a breaking down of walls between our lives and the lives of others still caught in bondage.
  • Just as mysterious: how can so many Christians be wishy-washy and ridicule a fellow Christian for trying to lead a sexually pure life? Or how can so many Christians demean other Christians who want to help and minister to “the unwanted harvest” (especially those with deep-rooted sexual and relationship issues)?
  • Why can’t we talk about (and tell our children) the truth?

In most cases, we know what we should practice. Sexuality doesn’t just affect us physically. It tempts us mentally and manipulates our emotions and attitudes. Many have been easily deceived and led astray.

God’s word about sexuality is clear:

Sex is for the heterosexual marriage relationship.

Sexual purity and abstinence is for everyone else.

I understand and acknowledge the viewpoint of “safer sex” and the realities of cultural influences, drug use, immaturity, sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted/unintentional pregnancy and a person’s free will. And I strongly agree that people in broken and abusive relationships, who are pregnant, who have substance abuse issues, who have emotional and psychological issues and who have destructive sexual problems (behaviors) should be lovingly and compassionately helped and guided.

In this sense, appropriate and effective education is needed.

However, what I just listed are some of the results (consequences) of poor, misguided or intentional sexual decisions (choices) of ignoring and disobeying God’s plan and intention.

The overriding and major problem with secular sex education is it typically focuses on sexual technique, sexual sophistication and preventive measures characterized by a type of moral relativism and situational ethics in which ethical and moral decisions are heavily based on individual circumstances. There is no absolute right or wrong. Everything is subjective. I’m sure it reminds Bible students of the times of the ancient judges of Israel (Judges 21:25).

In my personal estimation, the best type of sex education emphasizes sexual integrity and purity, a person’s overall health and development, character development, moral responsibility and spiritual understanding of (and commitment to) God’s will and standards.

Of course issues involving sex are intimate, personal and private. And a serious discussion is embarrassing and uncomfortable to many. However, too many Christians buy into and believe the myths about sex. Let us remember early church history and doctrine (the New Testament books of Acts through Jude):

In first century culture, sexual expression was equated to religious and spiritual expression.

So sexual activity was central and commonplace in everyday worship and religion.

Therefore, sexual ethics and morality was one of the major issues the church had to address.

As shown by their extensive teachings recorded in the New Testament, the apostles and early Christians certainly didn’t shy away from the subject.

With that said, Christians today can no longer hide in the church pew or under our halos.


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