“I am a baptized teenager who lost my virginity to a young lady who convinced me she could not go on without sex between us. She has since ended our relationship and will not even listen to me concerning the faith. Will I ever be able to marry someone with God’s approval? I have repented and asked God to forgive me. Must I remain single all my life?”
It is true that God intends sex to be enjoyed within marriage. . .
“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband”
– I Corinthians 7:2, 3 (English Standard Version)
It is clear that Christians are to behave differently from the world in our sexual conduct. . .
“God wants you to be holy and to stay away from sexual sins. He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable. Don’t use your body for sexual sin like the people who do not know God”
– I Thessalonians 4:3 – 5 (New Century Version)
But nowhere in the Scripture does God say that having sex with someone means you are married to him or her. Although sex belongs in marriage, having sex outside of marriage does not mean you have committed some sort of unforgivable sin. The only reason a man cannot marry is if he is married to someone already.
The apostle Paul says, “For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress” – Romans 7:2, 3 (English Standard Version).
The only thing that would keep you from marrying and having God’s approval for that marriage is if you are already married. Since you are not married and have never been married, your past sexual sin does not keep you from marrying and enjoying a healthy, married life.