Romantic Sunset by Petr Kratochvil
Dating, Sex and the Single Christian (part 2 of 2)
“I want you to be free from worry. A man who is not married is busy with the Lord’s work, trying to please the Lord. But a man who is married is busy with things of the world, trying to please his wife. He must think about two things—pleasing his wife and pleasing the Lord. A woman who is not married or a girl who has never married is busy with the Lord’s work. She wants to be holy in body and spirit. But a married woman is busy with things of the world, as to how she can please her husband.” – I Corinthians 7:32 – 34 (New Century Version)
20 Self-Inventory & Discussion Questions for Single Christians
1. How have you sensed God’s involvement in your dating decisions?
2. Where have been the most frustrating places for you to seek dating relationships?
3. How important has dating someone with a similar faith been to you?
4. How do you handle times of waiting in your dating life?
5. What helps you to keep sexually pure while you wait?
6. What has been the greatest temptation to lose your discipline in your dating life? (multiple choice)
- Being attracted to non-Christians
- Going too much by appearances
- Ignoring my parents’ (or others’) advice
- Deceiving myself into thinking that he/she is “the right one for me”
- Falling into manipulations
- Letting physical desires control my decisions
7. What is the secret of your spiritual strength? (multiple choice)
- Regular prayer
- Bible reading/study
- Awareness of my weaknesses
- A Christian upbringing
- Other: _____________________________
8. I feel weakest against temptation when it is . . . (multiple choice)
- Particularly attractive
- Perfectly reasonable
- Something new
- The same old thing
9. Which of the following best describes your attitude toward touching and being touched? (multiple choice)
- I want and need to be touched and hugged more.
- I’m suspicious of people who want to touch me.
- I want to be touched and hugged but worry if it’s okay.
- People should avoid touching – it brings too much temptation.
- To be close emotionally, you have to be able to touch physically.
10. Is your singleness more of a calling or more of a choice? What role does God play? How do you feel about your role?
11. How can an unmarried Christian find emotional fulfillment and intimacy if he/she has chosen to stay single to be more fully devoted to the Lord?
12. Do you need to ask God’s forgiveness for failures sexually or in other ways in your relationships?
13. Do you need to seek someone to share with about these issues?
14. Socially, what is your greatest challenge as a single person?
15. What advantages does being single have when it comes to serving God and others?
16. Would getting married have a positive or negative effect on your servanthood?
17. Generally, how difficult is it for singles to experience companionship apart from marriage? How difficult is it for you?
18. As a single person, what are your two biggest needs? (multiple choice)
- Not feeling like a person of worth
- Sexual frustrations or anxieties
- Financial problems
- Single parenting issues
- Healing from past relationships
- Not fitting into the church
- Lack of someone supportive to communicate with about my needs
19. What is the connection between your sexual behavior and your relationship with God?
20. How do you see your spirituality relating to your sexuality? (multiple choice)
- It doesn’t.
- Sexuality and spirituality are opposites that tug at me from both ends.
- Sexuality and spirituality are opposites that keep me balanced.
- Sexuality and spirituality both connect me with others.
- Spirituality helps me express my sexuality in ways that affirms God’s lordship of my life.
- Other: ___________________
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