15 Nevers of Marriage (Can You Name More?)

Home. Marriage. Bible Lesson. A friendly reminder.

Ephesians 5:22 -33

“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 

So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 

This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” (New American Standard Bible)

1 Peter 3:1 – 7

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 

Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” (New American Standard Bible)

1. Never both be angry at once.

2. Never talk at one another; either alone or in company.

3. Never speak loud to one another unless the house is on fire.

4. Never find fault (unless it is perfectly certain that a fault has been committed) and always speak lovingly.

5. Never allow a request to be repeated.

6. Never make a remark at the expense of the other.

7. Never part for a day without loving words.

8. Never meet without a loving welcome.

9. Never let the sun go down upon any anger or grievance.

10. Never let any fault you have committed go by until you have frankly confessed it and in sincere repentance asked forgiveness.

11. Never forget the happy hours of early love.

12. Never sigh over what might have been but make the best of what is.

13. Never forget that marriage is ordained of God and that His blessing alone can make it what it should be.

14. Never be content until you know you are both walking in the Lord’s way.

15. Never let your shared hopes stop short of the eternal home.


What does a marriage built on the blessings of Christ, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, voluntary submission and mutual consideration look like?


2 comments on “15 Nevers of Marriage (Can You Name More?)

  1. A great list, Brother. Thank you.
    For those of us with spouses that don’t yet believe, this may be of comfort:

    1 Corinthians 7:14
    New King James Version (NKJV)
    14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.

    • Thanks Cliff. I agree. It is encouraging to know that the non-Christian spouse (plus the children) shares in (and benefits from) the holiness of the Christian spouse (to some extent). A faithful and godly life (example) speaks powerfully when and where words can’t.

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